I have the day off from work- but not because it is Mother's Day- I am off because it is Sunday- and I have 99% of Sunday's off.
I asked for one thing for Mother's Day. A day where I can go downstairs, play music, get drunk & paint. A day to do the things I used to do.
Camerin works. So my carefree day of drinking, painting and being "old chelsea" will have to wait until another day. I have full confidence that I will get that day- it'll just be a few days late.
This Mother's Day- will just be Sunday. And honestly- that's fine.
But that reality has made me think. In many conversations with mothers about Mother's Day- most of them said that all they wanted was a day off. And through reading countless articles & comments sections- it seems like this is a rarity for them to actually receive.
Women are scrutinized for apparently never saying what they actually want- but yet- when they do- it seems like they don't receive it.
They receive flowers, chocolates, stuffed animals and other shit that they don't really need or want.
What mothers actually need is a fucking break.
I would bet money that most won't get it.
I was talking to my mom & she said something about how now I understand why she isn't ever really pumped for Mother's Day. As a kid- every Mother's Day was spent going to two different family functions. She usually had to help provide some sort of food and had to get me & my brother dressed up and all that jazz. For the most part- regular everyday shit- but it was Mother's Day- and she is a mother- yet- it was never about her.
What I'm getting at is that Mother's Day is kinda bullshit. And isn't really about mothers. It's about making everyone else feel good about the fact that they took one day- out of 365 in a year to really tell their mom that they appreciate her. When she spends every day living for them.
Your candies, cards, flowers, etc are all great. But if you really wanna show you appreciate her- do her job for a day. Give her a break. But that's not reality- because- honestly- no one wants our job. Not even for one day.
Moms are the most badass people out there. I have the privilege of working with a lot of moms. All of us from different backgrounds, all of us with different situations and struggles- and every one of us is a fucking bad ass. Every one of us is giving our absolute all every single day. I've never worked with anyone who works harder then a mom. We all deserve one day off. A lot of us won't get it- but that doesn't mean we don't deserve it.
I'm not upset that I won't get a day off on Mother's Day. I've been conditioned to understand that a day off isn't reality. And even if I did get a day off- I probably wouldn't know what to do with myself & I'd probably miss the shit out of my kid & spouse.
But it's nice to dream.